Judith, thank you for sharing your candid feelings. Yes, I can see how you might interpret my content as "lecturing."
Perhaps my motive will better explain my intent.
I began this conversation because of a working relationship I presently have with a fellow Biznik.
She charges me too little, I told her. I value her services much more than the rate she quotes. I subsequently referred at least three other customers to her and told them in advance what her rate was. Each said it was perfectly reasonable.
Here's the kicker. The rate I quoted to the three referrals is 67 percent higher than the rate she quoted me. As I marketed her with my endorsement, each prospect thought the rate was fair.
The experience inspired me to provoke other Bizniks to think about the rates they are charging. Did I come across a little "lecture-y"? Perhaps. Apologies.
I will say, however, that my temporary embarrassment here is worth it to me if even one person reading this has higher revenues this year on account of the dialogue.
(P.S. and for the record, I agree completely with your comment, "there is no reason to feel less than because of fee structure or to assume esteem issues." That's a 30-minute reply unto itself. In short and on a somewhat related note, I agree with Hsuan-Hua, EQ tests are powerful tools for businesspeople.)
